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Old Jun 28, 2013, 04:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Elektra_ View Post

i sent him a msg saying a guy that is genuinely interested in a girl doesnt talk about sex right away and from now on our convos would be sex free. he not even commented.
I am sorry and I do not mean to come off as rude, but I am, simply, genuinely curious about your approach and expectations.

So you had sex with the guy and then told him that from then on your convos (conversations, I assume) would be sex free.

And... he did not comment... did not EVEN comment.

So I hear that you were genuinely disappointed in his having not EVEN commented and, also, surprised by it.

I conclude that you expected him to, AT LEAST, comment.

So that makes me really puzzled because I cannot figure out HOW you expected him to comment. Let me try some guesses:

- I fully acknowledge your statement of general direction and am wholeheartedly on board with it. Our conversations will from now on be pristine. It won't just be sex free, but I would, on my end, ONLY offer to discuss global warming and what can be done about it. However, if you offer other subjects for discussion, I will try to be a good conversationalist and a good pal. The reason I myself am limited to global warming is because I am very much afraid that I might ***unwittingly and without ill intent*** drift into sex convos, and global warming seems the only truly SAFE subject for me in that I trust myself in my ability not to drift from global warming to sex.

- I am so sorry. I really should not have sex with you, because I should have realized that by having sex with you I presented myself as somebody who is not... GENUINELY interested in you... whereas in reality I am ***GENUINELY*** interested in you so I am sorry that I made that horrible miscommunication and I pledge to NEVER have sex with you so that you can rest assured that I am DEEPLY AND GENUINELY interested in you.

- I take an issue with your plan and propose that we engage a neutral third party mediator to help us resolve our differences.

- .... something else?...