DrClay, let us know if we need to come find you!

I think "fair" is a word kinda like "normal." Everyone's definition is going to be different. Additionally, within a relationship, I would guess that it is also fluid, which makes it even more difficult, much like a boundary. People are going to have to adjust their expectations based on the needs of the individual at the time. Also, there are built-in expectations of each role in a relationship, i.e. parent-child, boss-worker, needy friend - not so needy friend, etc. How does fair come into the equation?!

Can ya tell I need to work on this? I think also that more sensitive individuals may tend to get the brunt of the "fair" stick.

DrClay, your guidance is appreciated. I would appreciate hearing from others as well.
Thanks,
Okie