I agree with mls. Maybe if you talk to your T about your former T she will be able to help you with your grief, and at the same time it may bring you closer together. The thing about connection and boudaries is that I think it's better for the T to be clear than to change them. I know my T thought it was fine to answer my emails and to hold my hand, at first, but when she decided it wasn't good for me, that hurt a lot more than if she hadn't let me do those things in the first place. But it hurts either way, I know.

You could look for someone else, but maybe what you need is not what you want, and your T knows that. Just a thought.

ETA: Do you think it's because you don't like the "sensorimotor" therapy? I know that's hard for you, as it is for me. Does your T do that all the time, or do you do regular talk therapy also?