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Originally Posted by Michelle25
If you told your T that you were attracted to them I think they would believe you except they might think it's transference. They might not believe it's real at first because they are psych minded. I question if they can tell the difference between real affection and that of transference. I think more often than not they categorize any "feelings" you have for them as transference simply because it's easier for them to put it in that category rather than believe it could be real.
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I agree with you about their categorizing any romantic feelings as transference since that's kinda how they've been trained to think of it, and in most cases it probably is.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
My T is of the opinion that two people can just be attracted to each other, even in the context of a therapy relationship. We would have liked each other no matter where or how we met.
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My kids are cool, did your T actually tell you that he/she liked you? How does that play out in therapy? If my T actually liked me I'd feel like prey, probably because I'm waaaayyyy younger than most of the male (even female) T's in my area.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
Yeah, if I see a guy and I'm attracted to him on a physical level, that has nothing to do with his occupation. However, I imagine that having a smoking hot T that is nice to me would make me EXTREMELY vulnerable to falling for him and even if I didn't, it would really affect the therapy because I'd be scared that I was going to. I couldn't do that. Any particular reason why you want a male T?
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If I had a female T, I'd probably perceive her as either hostile and judgemental, or smothering and maternal, neither of which I want. That leaves only one gender left, and besides I grew up w/o a dad so it's probably an attention thing too. The likelihood of me choosing a female T is a flat out zero.
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Originally Posted by FeelTheBurn
Attraction is different from transference. If you want to jump in the sack with your new T right off the bat, that's most likely just plain ol' chemistry. And there is really nothing therapeutically damaging about thinking your T is hot and letting those thoughts run through your head; it's fun!
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I'm not gonna lie...this sounds pretty awesome!I almost wish this would happen
Anyway, yeah there is one guy that seems okay and he's moderately sexy and seemingly in his 30s, idk really that's just a guess. And I could go see the counselors at my college, but they're all women plus it's summer so... And just so you"ll know, I'm not the kinda girl who would attempt to seduce a T or really any guy, so whatever fantasy I'm concocting would never happen. Thanks for responding