Im in the opposite situation from you in that we're female client and male therapist, but I have also been seeing him for about ten years elapse time, seven years of therapy. I am surprised that transference never came up before now for you two. I asked my t for a hug at our first session, but he wasnt my first t. But he is the first t I hugged on a regular basis. We talked about it a lot. Now it doesnt seem like such a big deal anymore, and I think my transference is resolving itself. But it takes a lot of honesty.