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Originally Posted by hankster
Im in the opposite situation from you in that we're female client and male therapist, but I have also been seeing him for about ten years elapse time, seven years of therapy. I am surprised that transference never came up before now for you two. I asked my t for a hug at our first session, but he wasnt my first t. But he is the first t I hugged on a regular basis. We talked about it a lot. Now it doesnt seem like such a big deal anymore, and I think my transference is resolving itself. But it takes a lot of honesty.
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I attempted to bring up my erotic transference with her. I told her she was my 'goddess' which I meant in a figurative sense. I commented on her beauty, I told her I wanted to kiss her. When things came to head her response was 'I thought you were joking, you always joke around'. Right over her head. Now, she hates me; I believe she hates me because she is very embarrassed that I am attributing my transference 'train wreck' to the hugs. She feels that I betrayed her in that the hugs were well intentioned. My problem is that I liked them too much. She had no clue until it became a crisis for me; then she angrily 'dumped' me! It's a hard time for me.