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Old Jun 28, 2013, 11:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Asiablue View Post
Sunrise- my plan is/was to keep going with her since she is very good and knowledgable in her field. I guess progress is slow because she's being careful- we are doing trauma work. I want to stay with her and get everything i can from her and i try to forget about that deep connection thing since it isn't imperative to the work being successful. But i'm beginning to see that i'm really missing that connection and i feel myself getting angry and discouraged.

Jungatheart and sugahorse1 - Her boundaries are tight, no emailing, and outside contact via text is fairly limited. It's a good thing in a way because the boundaries were a mess and the ultimate downfall of the last therapy i was in. But i think i just don't feel that she's all that invested in me. The problem isn't my therapist, the problem is me. I'm more at home with a nurturing therapist, one with a real connection to me, who sees me as more than a job, someone i can feel is really with me. My current client/therapy relationship is safe ( i think) professional, boundaried, she's good at her job, educated, funny, we agree on a lot of things i think, she's a great therapist, she's doing nothing wrong. She's just not "warm and motherly" i guess. Which is probably good since i have attachment issues.

I wish i could just suck it up and deal.
Hi,Aysiablue
I know how those "tight boundaries" feel. It seems that you do have a connection with this T but that you need more warmth, nurturing. Is this something that you could discuss in session? I know...that is a tough one!! Not sure that I could...but if you are able to maybe she will get a better understanding in what you need. Maybe she can give more?
My T has some pretty heavy boundaries but she does let me email.. I hope that your T can lighten up those stupid !@#$%%^ boundaries a bit!!
Take care