Hi girls, thank you for the input and the kind compliments
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
...You have been with him long enough and should by now have developed the skill of reading his mind and intuiting his innermost desires and the plans that he might even be himself yet unaware of - yet you should be aware. UNKNOWING is no excuse.
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I know... he has to put up with all my slack, and, I certainly had the gall to post my issue on this forum.
If I want to be a girlfriend worthy of him, I'll have to get someone to open my third-eye, or maybe somehow source that red pill from the Matrix to rid myself of this unknowing nonsense...
because truthfully,
there is no crunchy toast.
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Originally Posted by riotgrrrl
I would just simply stop doing so much for him...if I were in your shoes, I would calmly take it out of his hand and put it in the dustbin. If your toast isn't good enough, let him make his own.
He sounds very self-centered, even if he doesn't mean to be (I do not know him to know if it's not something he is aware of). I understand that your kindness and patience has helped him get better in some things, but being a little tougher (without confrontation, blame or whatever) can also help.
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The toast-in-the-bin is something that has backfired on me because he hates wasting food -_-' more anger, yay.
Well, today he got mad because I didn't think to remind him of the time. We had an apartment inspection at 3pm, and it was my fault for allowing him to relax and dally on. He thought he had an additional 30 minutes to clean up his mess. A few things: I sent him an sms during the week about the inspection times. I reminded him of the times last night. I wasn't exactly paying attention to the time either. He's made it clear in the past that he doesnt like it when he's not allowed to go about things at his own pace i.e.don't rush me, I'll do what I want, I know what I'm doing (the very reason I didn't say anything when he procrastinated with clean up...I did my bit last night).
He's a sweetheart, but can unfortunately be self-centered
Discussions can be a bit tricky with him,
especially since he'll immediately withdraw at any sense of negativity, and focus on any perceived blame/accusation, instead of trying to remedy the situation.
I'll keep trying the none-confrontational toughness... hopefully he realizes Im not trying to make him feel bad...
hugs back!