my family is at the age now were they flee the coup, son though returned home after a two year relationship broke down, youngest daughter and partner is looking at a flat in there price range not far away, they been togeather four years so sensable the pair of them, both working so a new chapter in there lives could start soon, whats is confusing me is i brought up four children and had no problems with second eldest and youngest, treated them the same loved them all the same way why have the other two caused so much pain, possibly is it there add/adhd or is that an excuse,