Kathy, I dont know much about family psychology really so take this with a grain of salt, but it seems to me that children grow up in a sort of way like they reflect off each other while they create thier own identities. Its like if one is strong and gets all the attention for being strong, then the other child needs to develop a way to get attention and so they may develop habits of being less independent in order to get the attention needed.

Im not saying anything about the way you parent your kids. But kids may grow up opposite in character of each other as part of the family dynamic and may have nothing to do with anyones failures, its just the natural order of things?

Sending hugs (((Kathryn)))))