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Except for the sexual and romantic feelings, the same thing happened to me. As best I can tell, the hugs and holding meant more to me than she intended. She didn't say that. but it's part of the narrative I've developed to put the pieces together in a way that makes sense (she won't talk to me, much less own her part in it all). And then she dumped me when I got too dependent (or something. not sure why, but I overwhelmed her somehow).
I think the only hugs that are inherently wrong are ones that come from sexual feelings, or which touch parts which elicit sexual feelings - in either person. But I agree with the above who said that whatever the hug, and particularly if things are getting wonky, the meaning of the hugs should be discussed. The hugs should be supportive, and not create dependency either. Can't know that wihtout talking about it.
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