I don't know if it is the 'borderline' in me talking so excuse me if it is an over analysis, but to me a friend ought to be honest and direct about when something is wrong. I don't understand what has lead people to talk about you two and even negatively, and if they did, your friend should have confronted you and told you what they said. Also, a true friend shouldn't care at all what other people say as long as they think your friendship is healthy and good. When that person just ignores you, I find that extremely disrespectful. You even show concern and what you are showing here, you come off as extremely down to earth and very respectful and keeping your distance. I find her behavior rather childish instead. I hate it when things are left unsaid. At least just say them instead of leaving someone to their imagination and anguish, if not, you just aren't a good friend. That's my opinion, and there may be more to the story than I understand from this, so I am just judging from what I hear. Like frippet said, be careful. Good luck to you.