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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
For me, the hugging has been hugely healing. When we talk about things that I think are horrifying and make me a disgusting person, him being willing to touch me is huge. It is very reassuring that I am not disgusting. I am not contaminating other people. From the beginning, though, it was my choice. I was the one who brought up the issue of touching. He has asked since then about whether I am okay with the hugging. Hugging is always my choice. It is not something that we just DO without ever talking about what it means. Your T does sound poorly trained, but I do not think a full frontal embrace is inherently wrong or harmful for the client.
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Thanks for sharing tour experience. For the sake of being honest; I loved the hugs! That was the problem. My inability or failure to tell her not to hug me is actually a reflection of why I was seeing a T. ie: self esteem, depression, anxiety and then several years into the therapy the death of my 22 year old son. My son' death brought about an irrational sense of guilt as well as other grief related issues. She was so kind and now she hates me? Kind of like if one of my kids 'disowned me', it's another difficult loss that I have to endure.