My step-mom assured herself (and me) that she knows this is in no way her fault (despite her overly controlling, my way or no way, 'don't think, just do what I tell you' and otherwise totally invalidating parenting methods)...she feels my birth mother who repeatedsl abandoned me throughout my child hood is entirely to blame. Andd then assuered me that she totally understands what I'm going through and has for years....despite the fact that she has no idea that I've had issues with self injury for 7 years, and she is blissfully unaware of a few very crucial detatils of my sexual abuse, and that I've become dangerously suicidal. And she really proved how little she truly understands when she asked what I'm going to do when my friend and rooommated gets sick of me and kicks me out. My dad's only response was to ask if I'm going to try to 'jump on the disability bandwagon' now...despite the fact that i have full time job im totally capable of maintaining, with a little discipline. =.=