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Originally Posted by nebuladreams
Well, today he got mad because I didn't think to remind him of the time. We had an apartment inspection at 3pm, and it was my fault for allowing him to relax and dally on. He thought he had an additional 30 minutes to clean up his mess. A few things: I sent him an sms during the week about the inspection times. I reminded him of the times last night. I wasn't exactly paying attention to the time either.
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I am well familiar with this problem. I have a problem with not paying attention to the time myself, and it was SEVERE and is now WAY BETTER. Also, my ex 2nd H was a bit similar to our bf in that he opposed reminders of time coming from me and at the same time faulted me for making him take longer etc. I do not even want to remember that mess...
At any rate...
there is a solution.
there is one solution.
one and the ONLY solution that does not provoke all that mess of feelings, and it is
TECHNOLOGY.
So if you need to keep track of time, you need to engage technology - calendar events with reminders or something along these lines.
When tools of technology send a reminder, a human does not react with that whole mess of feelings because the tools of technology are inanimate.
It really works!
So if there is a deadline, a calendar event needs to be scheduled with an appropriate email reminder, and... the event forgotten by everybody until the reminder arrives in the inbox. And no feelings involved.