Oh okay - so your stepfather - well obviously you are half your mom and half your dad. So did he not like the half that reminded him of your dad, or because you were too much like your mom? I guess the exact details or comparison to the restaurant situation dont matter as much as you figuring out - this makes me sensitive to rejection (or whatever) Or I have a repetition compulsion for xxx. Like I had to figure out what role was assigned to me in my family - unfortunately I was pretty good at ignoring the obvious. Now when they call, my t has to re-remind me.