My H asked if I was upset about something. I said yes but I'll get over it. I didn't want to discuss it with him. I know most relationship advice will say that it isn't helpful to say "if you don't know what you did then I'm not going to tell you"...but for me its like "if you think back to what you said and you can't see what that you said something that was hurtful" then what difference will it make if I tell you it is hurtful to me... you didn't really mean it to be hurtful since you can't see what you did so its obviously my issue to get over."... and that is why it doesn't make sense to me to discuss things that upset me with the other person... it will end up being like two people speaking different languages

does anyone else understand what I mean?