Is sex not satisfying for you anymore? Maybe it has become boring. I have been with my wife for 8 years and it was great in the bgeinning and then things went south for a while. We had sex like once a month or once every couple months. It was a combination of me feeling depressed, stressed over school and her gainins weight and feeling less attracted to her. Thing are better now (sex wise), but it took a little work and some interest. Being romantic and passionate helps. Some soft kissing and making her feel good. That works for us.