Dude, we have talked about this. I do not want to hear you call yourself names.

You have some brain chemistry that is sticking you with negative thoughts. That is NOT your fault -- NOT NOT NOT. I don't want to hear any self-blame because it's not nice.

I want you to be nice to my friend Canders. Be kind to her. Help her through this tough time by speaking gently and generously about her. Please.