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Originally Posted by Readytostop
My H asked if I was upset about something. I said yes but I'll get over it. I didn't want to discuss it with him. I know most relationship advice will say that it isn't helpful to say "if you don't know what you did then I'm not going to tell you"...but for me its like "if you think back to what you said and you can't see what that you said something that was hurtful" then what difference will it make if I tell you it is hurtful to me... you didn't really mean it to be hurtful since you can't see what you did so its obviously my issue to get over."... and that is why it doesn't make sense to me to discuss things that upset me with the other person... it will end up being like two people speaking different languages
does anyone else understand what I mean?
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I understand exactly what you mean. Most relationship advice seems to assume that people are all created out of one mold and that all relationships work the same way. I'm lucky in that it is very easy for me not to let H know when I'm upset, because it could only make things worse for both of us if he did.
Speaking of which, I am really sorry for melting down last night on the previous couch. Thanks to everybody for your sympathy.
I was just falling apart and struggling so hard not to let H notice, as we are in a small hotel room so I couldn't move away physically.