I would be reacting the same way you are. I have been in that situation myself. I personally would never trust that person again. You shut me out and ignore me, I am done. My emotional state is too fragile to risk on someone who didn't care enough to explain. What if she is only being polite out of guilt for being so disrespectful. If I ignored someone I cared about, even after they asked me why, I would be apologizing and explaining my actions and ask for forgiveness. Be careful. Hugs

I don't know if it is the 'borderline' in me talking so excuse me if it is an over analysis, but to me a friend ought to be honest and direct about when something is wrong. I don't understand what has lead people to talk about you two and even negatively, and if they did, your friend should have confronted you and told you what they said. Also, a true friend shouldn't care at all what other people say as long as they think your friendship is healthy and good. When that person just ignores you, I find that extremely disrespectful. You even show concern and what you are showing here, you come off as extremely down to earth and very respectful and keeping your distance. I find her behavior rather childish instead. I hate it when things are left unsaid. At least just say them instead of leaving someone to their imagination and anguish, if not, you just aren't a good friend. That's my opinion, and there may be more to the story than I understand from this, so I am just judging from what I hear. Like frippet said, be careful. Good luck to you.

I'm sorry you are feeling conflicted with this...thanks for sharing...I can see that you have a good heart and are a true friend. I have also had issues with friendships...I can honestly say I am a good friend....but have learned that is not enough to some people...it hurts to feel like they didn't care enough to give you at least the respect you deserve...if they are going thru some things that prevent them from giving what you deserve than that's on them not you anymore. We can only do so much to show people we love them and care enough to try to fix things...but if they cant even be honest with you about this then how will they ever be honest with themselves..i see you are trying to stay positive and want to make this friendship work but from an outsider looking in...you don't deserve to keep torturing yourself over someone who wont even respect the fact that she is the one not doing what she should to fix the friendship...you cant expect someone to just forget and try to come back in their life if you never want to honest about what lead you to end the friend ship to begin with....is she hasn't been honest with you yet I wouldn't hold my breath waiting or even letting this get me down any further...I know its hard when you care so much about people but sometimes we need to see it for what it is and either keep yourself hoping for people to change or let go and simply just take this as lesson...and not allow people to take your beautiful heart for granted...their loss ...I also agree for you to be careful...