Whenever you think in terms of 'deserving' you are thinking her patterns again: there is a scale in human relationships, if i give out 5, i must receive 5 or 6.
leave out the thoughts of what should be done. Ask yourself, your real self what do you want to do.
Your strength and your happiness are within you. No one took them away.
They are there.
Btw, i might have given the advice for a movie, but i couldn't remember it now