Respectfully hamster I disagree. Retaining an attorney is a positive step to ensure his rights are spelled out clearly for all to see. That way there is no "it's my weekend, no it's not it's my weekend. You had him for Christmas, I get him for labor day."

I think it's sad that it took someone new in the ex-husband's life to let him know how important his child should be in his life.

Rosebee - I agree with you. You should have known about your bf's kids. None of my girl's or their friends are married yet. They're in their mid 20's and I've always told them when you meet someone you are interested in your first question should be do you have children. Your second should be what is the last thing that you've done with them. If they have to think about the answer to that question, run. If they don't treat their own children well, then they certainly won't treat you well. I'm sorry that your bf wasn't open with you and I would have serious trust issues with him as a result.