RTS, about the issue with your husband....I wonder if it's doing you more harm than good to just hold onto it as "your issue" and hope that the feelings just dissipate on their own. I'd imagine that taking some kind of action would help you move through the process, otherwise you're just swallowing the feelings (which can ultimately be called back up at other times until it's resolved) or being passive aggressive by hoping that your H will do something different based on your reaction.