MUE... I considered talking to him but here is my reservation... what he said demonstrates the attitude of his heart? in other words, it shows how he truly feels because it just came out of his mouth... It wasn't just that he said... I don't like your hair cut or that purple isn't the best color on you... those things are something someone can learn like don't comment on my appearance unless I ask your opinion sort of thing...

If I ask him to "filter" everything to come out of his mouth to be what I want to hear, how will I truly know the attitude of his heart?

This isn't something that my H "can do differently"... he was sharing his thoughts... and I'm not hoping for anything different and so that is why I'm not sharing it with him. Its a different situation then say when my H told my son I was a "registered ___ (political party) when discussing the primary elections" and me going ballistic because after 24 years of marriage It's hard to believe my H doesnt' know that I think its totally wrong that I would have to register as anything to vote in the primaries.... I don't believe in "political parties" and that I vote for the best candidate...etc..etc..etc.." This I can tell him about this I can expect him to pay attention to ...this recent thing was his opinion...

I shouldn't be able to tell him his "opinion is wrong" or expect him to "change his opinion" ...then he will just be telling me what I want to hear and I don't want to be married to a puppet.