I just realized I didn't post my POV ... well obviously I'm for it, but I feel like elaborating

The main reason I am all for (my) choices, is that it has strengthened my relationship and connection with BF in leaps and bounds.

Firstly, we were dating for 3 years before he brought up the topic in jest. It took alot for him to admit to his fetishes and he was certain it would scare me off. Instead I was open to the idea of his fetishes and did some research to see if I would be open to it before shutting it down, even downloaded a BDSM guide

So there already we both scored points in the trust department.

My research led me to discover my fetishes, things I've always secretly wanted to try but never gave them a second thought (because really, who does that? ) and so brought it up with bf. Turns out we do it!

BF was a bit, ok very reluctant about spanking me at first...
For 1, he's a big guy and said he would cry if he hurt me. lol. So I convinced we'd start small and take it slow, and promised to communicate anything I didn't like.... Here I scored major trust brownie points with him for researching in the first place. He couldn't believe I actually did that

Also my research led me to the name of what I secretly craved, to be able to submit to someone else, no questions asked. Enlightenment much?

The BDSM guide showed me that BF and I had always had the premise of a DOM/SUB relationship, even though we were both unaware, and this suprizingly excited me to no end! Felt like a kid on Christmas morning!!

So now here's my point... I love the fact that we explore kink as it is the ultimate display of trust for both of us. It has deepend and strengthened the bond between us on levels I never imagined possible.
It honestly has done wonders for us, and that's saying something because we were pretty wonderful to begin with.