Wikid, I also don't think you're gross. I think many of us would flash on that very sad image of the tiny coffin.

Ready, I completely understand what you're saying. I have a similar issue with my husband, even when we're getting along. He thinks I am just "wrong" for engaging in conflict and therefore will never take my side. He says that is his opinion and he is entitled to it, and my desire for him to back me up or be on my side (ever) means I just want a puppet. From my end, I am pretty sure that I am not wrong each and every time there is a disagreement with my family or whoever, and I am pretty sure in his head, he concludes I am wrong so that he can avoid the discomfort of a conflict. He did finally admit that he looks for reasons that I might be wrong to avoid an argument with anyone other than me. Me, he is fine arguing with. No one else.

Anyway, my point was that I get the ambivalence between someone giving an opinion that hurts your feelings, or wanting someone to agree with you and/or to have your back, and the knowledge that the other person is entitled to their opinions.