I know that you we're not suggesting reporting her. I think she wasn't comfortable talking about my erotic feelings, so she simply said 'Oh, than it won't work, I'll refer you to a male T'? Maybe technically it is unethical, but she is human. And she did help me so much for 10 years. Although she might hate me now she will always have a place in my heart (not in an erotic sense). I wrote her 3 three letters that must have been very hurtful. The 1st telling her outright about my transference, 2nd expressing my resentment of her dumping me with out talking through it. In the 3rd letter I angrily fixed the blame on her for hugging me and other things she did (naively) without catching my cues that I was smitten by her. That must have been hurtful and the cause of the anger that she expressed the last time we spoke (over the Tele). I never stopped loving my wife throughout my fixation with the T. I was troubled and confused before I told the T about my trans. Upon telling her I felt guilty and lost. I feel a bit better thanks to you and the others taking the time to share your insights with me. Thanks again, Human.