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Foreign_Soul · Jun 30, 2013 at 01:37 PM

I don't know what to do and am so worried!

My seven year old son is in foster care (my sociopathic "mother" made false statements to police who won't follow up the paperwork provided to them to prove the statements made are false).
Last year he was with a single man and two other boys, 13 and 15-6yrs old. Toward the end of that placement I became worried about my son being placed with teenagers- he was asking me to buy him girls clothing and saying he wanted to wear them too. I explained to him that boys don't really wear girls clothing, that it was ok if he wanted to try it on, but that I wouldn't buy any for him as I strongly believe that children need to be taught that they will be accepted for whoever they are, no matter what.

Anyway, he was moved after an allegation of physical abuse and has since been with an older single lady who has grandchildren. In January this year my son told this woman, and later myself and his psychologist, that his maternal grandmother had been making him wear girls clothing. I raised this repeatedly and am still far from impressed at the response to the allegation. My son also asked me once to search for videos on YouTube of "girls dancing in underwear". I asked him about this (he only learnt about YouTube through the teenage boys in his placement) but he said he was joking and hasn't said anything since. The way he said it at the time didn't really concern me but I made sure to make note of it.

However, tonight I received a phone call telling me that the carer's granddaughter was staying over and that my son had allegedly climbed into bed with her, pulled down her underwear, and kissed her.

Now I don't know what to do or think. Prior to his placement with the man and teenage boys last year there was nothing abnormal about my son's behaviour at all. But since then there have been a few things that, when put together, are quite suspicious. I'm worried that my son has been exposed to things he would never have seen/heard if he were home and I'm beginning to wonder if he was abused himself but I have no idea how to ask him about any of this.