I have a similar issue with my husband, even when we're getting along. He thinks I am just "wrong" for engaging in conflict and therefore will never take my side. He says that is his opinion and he is entitled to it, and my desire for him to back me up or be on my side (ever) means I just want a puppet. From my end, I am pretty sure that I am not wrong each and every time there is a disagreement with my family or whoever, and I am pretty sure in his head, he concludes I am wrong so that he can avoid the discomfort of a conflict.