There's discussion of him giving up his rights because he hasn't really been involved in his sons life the last year. Part of it is his current wife's insecurity, part is my husbands insecurity. That's why I said no to him giving up his rights. It's not for the right reasons. There's alot more to tell but I'm dealing with it in pieces myself. This week has been harder because we have actually been nice to each other. That brings up the good feelings. Thank you all for your kind words and your experiences.