[QUOTE=murray;3144441]Although I do think that the hugs should have been discussed and may not have been advisable, when in the midst of erotic transference just about anything can result in the same sort of reactions you mentioned. Even a completely innocent smile, clothing choice, gesture....anything on the T's part really, can feed into the feelings and the fantasy. T's do definitely need to be careful regarding touch and all but it might be that you would have had these feelings anyway. I am not sure if you want to try to salvage the relationship with this T or not but perhaps she is still willing to work with you to resolve this issue, if you aren't still in the mindset that she either needs to run off with you or you will tell her off. I don't really know.[/

She won't even talk to me never mind continue working with me. Immediately after reading my letter to her in her office in my presence she told me we were done. The letter unambiguously revealed my trans. I had to make it unambi... Because she didn't catch on when I gave her shuttle hint such as 'you're my goddess', one day when she had no desk in her office (moving) I told her 'this even better I can look at your legs throughout ....'. She said ok 'in my new office I can just move my chair from the desk'. Right over her head. Now she must feel humiliated that I finally objected to the hugs. ( And I feel terrible that/ if she does.) I told that only my wife hugs me that way. Until the hugs started I handled my trans very well. She was only willing talk to me to offer the name of a male replacement T., in angry tones. Now when my wife and I hug (which is just as the T did) I can't help but to think of the T. That is very disturbing to me! I wanted nothing more than to work it out with her; I was devastated when the T refused.