Seems like your patience paid off. Kids are often put in position where they feel they must choose between who they align themselves to - out of survival instinct, I would imagine.

Now that he is older, he is probably aware that it is not so life-and-death a choice. He obviously didn't forget you and although he never responded, he certainly noticed when the connection was no longer there, and if he did not make the effort to respond, it would have remained that way. Says alot about how much of an influence you were on him.

I think it's great that this is happening. And it only makes sense that, after such a long time and his growing up, would make things uncomfortable for you both when renewing ties.

I think if you keep doing what you are doing and he keeps doing what he is doing, a great relationship may develop after all.

And isn't it interesting that he was able to pick up on your insecurities even though it was not voiced. Kids are sooo perceptive and it never ceases to amaze me to the degree that they are.

Keep good thoughts, LMo!

AS