I'm so sorry. I've sort of detached from people so i don't really have that dependant side any more but OMg when i did? If someone i wanted to talk to and had sat and thought about talking to them etc.. and i found out someone else had talked to them? would have just killed me!I also think that we are naturally drawn towards people who are non-nonsense kinda 'grounded' sorts that we dont manipulate easily due to our need for emotional regulation. ((hugs))