Please provide any advice for me that you may have. We have been married 20 years; we are in our 40’s. We have four children, two teenagers and two pre-teens. I don’t think our marriage works. When I was dating her I thought she was funny and pretty but I thought there was a decent chance we may not work well together as parents, but it was hard to know for sure; but my worst fears came true. Our working relationship has always been extremely challenging. We simply don’t work well together. She wants to dictate every minute of my day. She is overwhelmed by life and I have to help her with everything. I sometimes think she has depression or anxiety but maybe it’s just life/motherhood. I feel sorry for her but I am always in trouble yet I wake up every morning thinking what can I do to make her happy. There is just so much tension in our home, she is mad at me at least half the time. If I do anything like go out to lunch with people I work with, she is annoyed because I didn’t run an errand for her during that time, or something like that. If I take a business trip, I am in big trouble. It should be noted, we have had a lot of external problems that have taken a toll on our lives. I had a business fail (partly due to our marriage dynamics) that has caused us to file for bankruptcy. We have learned officially that our oldest, who doesn't develop normally, has some degree of Autism. Our second has ADHD. The next two our quite normal though. We have had some problems with both of our own families that have raised the stress. We may have been ok if so much hadn't happened around us. As a side note we do have some good times and I have been completely faithful to her and I believe she has been faithful too. The question really is, if a marriage can’t find a good routine, and is often tense, is it better for this kids for the parents to split up? Willing to do whatever is best for them…