I think I was bored because he was, well, boring. So my case is probably different from yours, in that the boredom in your case might be sitting in you (as per Christina/Hannabee's insight - maybe you need adrenaline).

So, in his case, he was:

- movie actor handsome
- self-absorbed to the point of being funny (like a child)
- infantile (an only child of a mom who thought that he was basically a gift from God to the entire humanity and that she should be respected, honored, and extolled for producing such a gift)
- did not have a particularly interesting inner world

So I think the fact that I was bored was a reflection of his character rather than some adrenaline junkiness on my part.

I can tell you that he and I had very frequent sex while dating - basically non-stop when not eating or using public transit (well, with some making out discreetly while in public transit) - and I barely remember it because it was sort of mechanical and repetitive. The boyfriend whom I left for that guy (and regret it now, which is sad because he committed suicide in 1998 and I cannot say "I am sorry" to him)... I was sexual with him for only a couple of months, following a couple of years of friendship, and when I was sexual with him, it was about once a week only because I concealed the sexual part of our r/s from my mother (I was about 20 and lived with my mother who did not like him so I was being secretive).

so basically I remember those few sexual encounters very well and it almost moves me to tears to remember them; I was more or less just letting him love me and not particularly enjoying it, but there was a depth of emotion and poignancy to the way he made love to me that got seared into my memory. And he was OH so not boring as a person.

Again, I think Hannabee and Christina are sensing that boredom resides in YOU rather than stems from Jane's qualities, so maybe indeed take a break. Also, to the best of my knowledge, participation in extreme sports bespeaks certain needs that have to be met, and that are fairly special to you. Say, I would not do any extreme sports, but one of my best girlfriends who lives in Finland is all about them, some in winter and others in summer. When she was 20+, she... broke her spine when she fell from some kind of a contraption for flying (a glider? no idea)... was hospitalized for months... when recovered, resumed extreme sports.

So if you have it in you, you have it in you.

By the way, the girlfriend who is into extreme sports...

- married young and already pregnant, had a daughter, and eventually left her husband when she became exasperated by her husband who did absolutely nothing with regards to childcare and gave all his affection to his... beloved doggie

- was on her own for awhile, building up her career and raising her daughter with her parents' help

- had a series of lovers
- eventually the ex H wanted to do things with her, and then she noticed a good quality in him that she did not expect to see: he was cool that there was at that time another lover in her life and the other lover she had at that time in her life was boiling over with anger with respect to not being her only lover

- so she appreciated the ex H for respecting her and her choices and being willing to wait patiently until she figures things out

- she then remarried the ex H and they raised the daughter together (she is an adult now living separately)

- she and the H (actually, H--> ex H-->H again) are doing extreme sports together.

So you never know what life has in store for you.