Hmmm...Wants2fly.... I couldn't believe your words, since you sound exactly like me! I could have written exactly the same post! Kind of eerie, actually. I even wondered if someone who knows me was posting as a joke (er sumpthin'!).....

I don't know why I find it necessary to isolate myself right now, having done so for two years since my last dating disaster. Prior to that, I had refrained from dating for three years, and thinkng I was "better," tentatively ventured into meeting somone, which resulted in another painful long recovery. LIke you, I do not ever see myself being vulnerable again. In the meantime, though, I have also distanced myself even from my female friends, declining social invitations or even getting together casually. I seem to need this quiet time, though I am no longer sad or hurting in any way emotionally. Like you say, it is a comfort zone, I guess.
Patty