Hi ((((Marjan)))) I am so happy for you that you found your true love. That is wonderful! Love is a good thing

Your situation sounds two-fold:

- You are playing house with his family on a temp basis, with no rights, but a lot of responsibility.

- He has trust issues so you aren't in a solid relationship.

I am sorry and don't mean to sound hard, but you sound very resentful and he sounds incredibly insecure.

Would he consider going to couples counseling with you?

If not, you should consider: (a) going to counseling yourself (so you can work out your resentment and understand blended family situations), or (b) getting out now.

I do believe compromise is important and if you love each other, of course, you should work on it, but this man comes with a lot of history. That meshed with your own...

Set clear boundaries and definitely protect your heart.
(when push comes to shove, his "first" family typically will come first).

Best wishes to you. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.