I would stop and think - then ask yourself.... Will this visit benefit my kids in any way or form, if they are able to see him (and) If I do take them to visit him can I myself, handle seeing him- being around him?

If you can answer YES to both of these question..... then by all means take the trip, you and the kids might just be better off in the long run by visiting/seeing him before some thing does happen.

Good Luck....... ((( hugs )))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -