Rap,

Thank you for your post. I get that. I've never been in a group setting, but remember the Bahamas with three other women and the vow, "What happens in the Bahamas, stays in the Bahamas!"

In other words, when there, and here, I'm not my children's mother mostly, I'm not my hubby's wife mostly, I'm not my real life friend's friend mostly...some of all this things I might come here and gripe about to my SUPPORTIVE friends here. I'm a survivor who suffers sometimes. I come here as I go to no one else but my past therapist...to attempt to understand what is sometimes considered the unspeakable, unwanted, undesired here in real life...to gain understanding that no one can give me here in real life. In doing that, I share here what I don't share at other places.

I think it's about respecting the spoken and unspoken trust that comes with every post and saying, "I hear you. I'm here for you. I respond to you and don't care to share your innermost thoughts with those you didn't share them with initially." This new guideline is backing up that general thought and expectation.

Have y'all been in a group of people and really suffering? You scan the group to check the safety of the individuals making up the group and then share because you've deemed them (as a whole) a confidential, caring bunch? Should be, and can be, the same here...

KD