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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
I hear you on this, CE. I was thinking the same thing...except I wouldn't call it "selfish needs and wants" rather than doing things for ones self as a form of good self care. We all need to take care of our own needs and wants which may conflict with the needs and wants of others. I'd consider that different than the intended message of "selfish needs and wants".
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That is why the quote talks about selfish needs and wants and no legitimate self care kinds of things. There is a difference between the mom who arranges safe child care for her kid to take a weekend for herself and the mom who leaves her kids in a dangerous situation and heads to the bar. Or the person who attends to what he of she wants or needs ahead of vital needs of the child. I need something versus my child's safety and my child's safety is most important every time. My H does domestic work and he is forever getting women who insist they need help and their children are in danger, but when push comes to shove, they spend money on cigarettes and social stuff rather than pay for an attorney to do the legal work necessary to get safety for the children.