Last night I lost my cool. I did not hurt anyone but I did let my frustrations out by slamming around a few kitchen objects (none of which were sharp or dangerous).

What lead to this was both my husband and daughter had been getting on my nerves for most of the day. He had a particularly negative attitude toward pretty much everything yesterday. My daughter was being a typical 14 year old with a sullen attitude. She rolled her eyes at me when I confronted her about eating from a bag of chips that I had specifically told her was mine and off limits. What really got my goat was that she waited until I was out walking the dog to attack the bag of chips so the sneakiness combined with the eye roll in response to my confronting her really pissed me off. The final straw came when my husband got pissy about a cup that he likes to use having been left in the dishwasher.
It was at that point that I lost it and took my frustration out on the dishes and pans on the kitchen counter top. Nothing went flying through the air and nobody was in any danger of anything. It was just me venting on some innocent dishes. I said nothing to no one and walked out to the balcony to cool off. My husband followed saying "Can you stop slamming things around?" To which I responded "No, better to take out my frustration on things than on people!" And he replied "Really?" and did so with the intonation of voice that suggests the person is mocking you. I then told him "Yes, really. I do have my limits" from there I explained that I had had enough of the negativity between he and my daughter. I also explained that it is better to just leave me be when I'm angry. I will get over it but if you follow me it will only get worse from there.
Well, here we are at the start of another new day and he is speaking to me but I can tell he is not over my outburst from last night.

Am I not entitled to have my feelings as well as everyone else? I feel like both my husband and daughter fail to realize that I am also capable of feeling anger or frustration. I get the impression from both that because I (most of the time) appear to be on an even keel, that it just blows them away when they see that I am capable of anger as well as them. It's like they have some unrealistic picture of me in their heads and when I do or say something that doesn't match the picture, they look at me like I've lost my mind. Hell, I don't share half of what goes on in my head because it would either be inappropriate (with daughter) or glossed over (with husband). Most of the time I can deal with minor annoyances and frustration but, like anyone else, every now and again I reach my limits and express that. Why is that so damned hard to understand? God knows I've seen the both of them have outbursts and I patiently waited for them to regain their calm without belittling their expression of their anger/frustration. What the hell?