bebop,

My husband and I are in a very similar situation. He also works nights (goes in for 11:30 p.m.) and we have to sleep in separate rooms. First, because I can be a light sleeper and like you, when he has his days off I can't adjust. As for whether or not this helps or hurts a marriage, all I can say is that if all other areas of your married life are ok then I wouldn't worry. Besides, you said he will be going on disability soon which suggests that this is a temporary issue.

What are his thoughts on this? If he's ok with it I wouldn't worry.