I think verbally expressing feelings of anger and frustration when they arise and being specific about them helps me so things don't get to the overflow point where it looks like "everything" is wrong.

I would not worry about how husband and daughter think about your anger; it's yours and yes, you have the right to express it as seems best to you. But if you worry about their thoughts/feelings on your thoughts/feelings you get into a never-ending cycle of upset? I work to understand and verbally express my feelings when I am feeling them, as clearly as I can and use them to figure out how I want to act. My feelings are never about other people, they're mine and I love them