hey.... My mother isn't quite likes yours... mine is more passive aggressive... manipulative by using guilt and withholding love....

she always treated me as if I were the other woman which in a way I was even though I was only a little girl.I always yearned for a mother who would hold me and protect me from the bad things he did to me....

instead i got the one who acts like she hates me, who is jealous of me,who holds guilt over my head.

I had to accept that she has never been any different and she is not ever going to be.The hurting little girl who needs her mommy is going to have to be mothered by my adult self...

once i accepted that I was able to accept her and i was able to set up boundaries which means she no longer has the power to control me. it hasn't been easy and i still find myself relapsing.. wanting her to be a sweet loving mom and grandma...

You can get through this....you can find the strength to stand up and take your life back from her... it is yours to live.. and it should be filled with joy and happiness.. you deserve it...

I pray you and hubby will work through this and draw closer to each other because of it....

Faith