After a really long time, finally I found my true love. However, he has two kids from his previous marriage.
He brings his kids to my place whenever he has them which he has 50% custody and that's too much for me.
This weekend from Friday night till Monday morning, he had them and they were at my home. I got exhausted and at night I asked him to put them in bed soon since they were tired too. Then at 9pm when his son (6 years old) took shower and came downstairs to play wii, I told him "no, you should go upstairs and sleep". He shout at me and told me "my daddy told me I can play wii". I got furious and I called him which he was upstairs with his daughter (8 years old) and I asked him to tell him not to turn on the TV and no play anymore.
Honesty, I couldn't stand another wii game all into my head. I had a big headache after having kids and entertaining them for the whole weekend.
And This is my house (I bought it with my own money). and he doesn't pay me rent or anything but he's always with me.
Anyhow, he got so upset with me and at night he told me "I am the father and I am the one who is telling them what to do, you have no rights". I said "you are telling me that at my own home I have to be miserable and not have a break and not being able to tell the child that no more TV?"....
We had long conversation which ended up with saying "I love you" and making love. He said "it looks like I'm not ready and he won't bring them to my home".
I don't have any kids and it's too much for me to have kids all over my home. I paid cleaning lady on Friday, but home gets dirty right away.
We've been together for five months, every single day and we love each other. but I can't stand to be taken advantage of.
I buy things for the kids and do lots of stuff. I feel not being appreciated. and I want my me time.
My boyfriend has trust issue since the mother of the kids has cheated on him.
So, he doesn't like me to go out alone with my friends when he's not with me. Then when he's not with me, I'm so alone!
I told him last night, you have to trust me and let me do stuff by myself.
I've been single most of my life and it's so hard for me to be in a relationship. and now it's not just a man, it's a man with two kids.
I feel they are always united and I'm always out of the circle. last night he confirmed that and I can't get rid of that thoughts. It's so sad!
I do love him and I want to continue my relationship with him. I'm 40 years old and I've been in several relationships. I know how hard is finding a partner that is my best match (or the closest match to my ideal partner).
I appreciate any feedback.
thanks