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Originally Posted by healingme4me
He's going from one extreme to the other here, in my mind!!! My ex, he says the same things, it's black and white for him, all or nothing. There's no say what he means, means what he says.
Your wanting the TV off at 9pm, and kids to bed around that time frame, is NOT unreasonable, mother or not!!! Honest to goodness!! Yeah, 9pm is a normal time to turn off the electronics and get to bed!!
So from you, asserting, that; it's now, Well...I will NEVER bring them here Again?!
See, the irrationality in that??
My ex, Him first--kids are an extension of him, then whomever 2nd, when he's NOT getting HIS Way!!
Flexibility and Compromise are keystones to a functioning relationship. Is HE on board?! You sound, like you'd be willing to compromise, Will he? Can he?!
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It seems he wants to compromise too....He told me in the morning how much he loves me and he wants me and he said I'm the best thing has happened to him in a long time.....I think we need time to see how it goes....
He takes care of me in all other ways....
Well...I think time will show our way...His kids are a huge deal breaker! Specially if he doesn't want the other person to have any input while they are running up and down in her home (I mean while they are at my place).....
I believe he had the same issue with his sister and finally his sister asked him to not bring the kids the whole weekend at her place! I don't blame her!
If I see her sister, she will tell me....
It's really sad....I'm 40 years old and I finally found love and I know he loves me but then his kids are huge mountain between us....At least he made them look like that to me!
oh and he said he will never bring them to my home and then few minutes later on when I asked him how he wants to continue relationship with me if he doesn't want his kids at my place, then he said he didn't said never....he meant for now! but I'm positive I heard he said "NEVER" with emphasize!
Frankly, I don't give it a damn....no benefit to have his kids at my home, just headache....and It was relief to me hearing that he won't bring them over....less laundry and less dishes and cleaning for me....and I can go wherever I want and watch whatever movie I want!