***************I think you are too complicated. If you trust your higher power and have enough self esteem you would be able date. If you really dated and really tried to find someone wonderful, it would be worth all of the backache. You could have the stamina to be successful but you don't want to have it because you moan and groan and act like it is a bad thing to have a fantastic person in your life. YOu act like the hunt is not worth it.

I hate to critizie but so many people today are too lazy to hunt for a compatable person. Instead they function by tradition. They tell themself that they are "old " now and that it is just too late. Well you will live out the decisions you have made. All of us can get a blessing if our heart is in the right place, if we have integrety and are believers in good outcomes. These are the things I have. I deserve a prosperous life. I don't have to settle for less than that.******************

i know Patty really well and i don't think she's been characterized fairly at all by your comments. she's explained herself.

i find Patty to be a wonderfully warm and loving person. we communicate almost every day and Patty is far from lazy about maintaining a relationship and her integrity is top notch. Patty has never moaned and groaned to me about anything and believe you me, she's had plenty to complain about it. she takes care of her family, her work and her friends. all without a negative word.

she teaches art to middle school children and her committment to those children is superb.

Patty has been hurt and if she needs a long time to recover and then she still makes the decision to not have a man in her life.......that's fine by me. i've been single 16 years and i damned sure am not too lazy and whiney to get through my life without being married. pat