How does one overcome intense jealousy? I have incredibly low self esteem, and while I find myself to be an amazing, attractive person when I'm alone...I compare myself to others constantly when I am in public.

I also experience jealousy in my relationship. I get majorly depressed if my partner admits finding /anyone/ attractive, or if they look at anyone I deem more attractive than myself.

Sappy 'You're Beautiful' quotes have never helped. I want to know if anyone has actual tips for this problem.