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Thank you so much for posting this. I’m an old lady, too. My situation is different, but not so different.
I’m finding that the more I can extricate myself from family, and the family dynamics, the better things are. It’s horribly painful to let go of people and relationships I cherish, but they have not been healthy. Whether the problem(s) is/are me or them, it’s all mixed at this point. And I’ve been happy recently actually to feel love for some people, even though we haven’t spoken in a while. The hurt and anger has lessened with time and love remains. Who would have thought that? Not me.
The reason I have for living right now – well, first of all my body hasn’t quit on me. I’m here because of the “Higher Power” of biology, at the most basic level. Yes, that may/will change but not at the moment.
Then, IF I can get healthier within me, then maybe that may have an effect if/when there is interaction with other family members. Old patterns and habits die hard, though. A little bit flared up a few weeks ago with a sister of mine, but it's calming down now, thankfully. I hate feeling hurt by people because I care about them and want to help, and then get slapped down.
Do you have any sources of social support besides your family? I’m an introvert so I didn’t really have many, but I go to several in-person support groups and that has helped a lot.
Keep on keeping on. Your voice counts and I hear it.
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